How do You wish to be addressed?
My preferred title is “Ma’am.”
What celebrity are You often told You resemble?
Jane Russell
What do You consider to be Your greatest feature?
My amazing bone structure, waist to hip ratio and impressive derrière.
What would We be surprised to learn that You have never done?
I’ve never had a Mistress or a Master.
What is the best advice You have ever received?
Start saying “yes.” Stop saying “No.” when people want to give you gifts, help, advice and honor.
What are you “totally addicted” to?
Healthy vegan food, the library and My hitatchi magic wand.
What do You not ever leave home without?
Lipstick.
How long have You been in the lifestyle?
Ten years.
Would You consider Yourself to have had a regular childhood?
No.
What is your favorite beverage? (can be hot/cold, alcoholic/non-alcoholic,etc).
Grapefruit Perrier.
Do you celebrate Christmas or a similar holiday at this time of year, and if so, what do you enjoy most about it?
The time with people that I care about and treasure. Ritual. Reflection.
What’s the sexiest thing a submissive has ever or could ever say to you?
“you are the Queen of my bones.”
Tell Us about Your first Femdom experience, including a detailed description of how You felt.
My first femdom experience was dressing up My junior high school boyfriend in womens’ clothes, doing his makeup and curling his long hair and marching him up and down a busy street in our small town so cars would slow down and try to approach him and think he was a prostitute. Usually when they saw he was a boy in a dress & that W/we were just kids they spend away embarrassed. I’m lucky I lived in such a Catholic town! It made Me so excited that he would do something that entertained Me so much & that caused him so much discomfort and embarrassment. It made Me feel powerful and special.
What is the last book You read?
I’m currently reading “Exercises for Rebel Artists: Radical Performance Pedagogy”
What is Your favorite movie?
I love short films. My current favorite is “Mouse’s Birthday” by Barry Morse. It was on the film festival circuit for a couple years and is now available to view online.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FpLLS8qG2Y0 I love the juxtaposition of sweetness, childhood imagery and the very dark themes of murder, impossible sexual desire and just the general unfairness of the story.
Do You consider Yourself a Pro Domme, Lifestyle Domme, or a combination of both?
I am both a pro and a lifestyle. Even if I ever stopped being a pro I would continue to be lifestyle forever.
If You were to choose one word to describe the feeling You experience when Dominating a submissive, which word would You choose?
Euphoria.
What is Your general view of men?
They’re often ignorant and more often than not undeserving of the power and privilege that is handed to them in their day to day lives. They need to be stripped of their dignity and subjugated!
Does Dominating another bring You sexual pleasure? Tell Us about how so and why do You feel this way
Yes. Domination satisfies a deep emotional need I have to control and be worshipped as well as My sexual needs and desires to hurt, humiliate and run the scene or fuck.
Which lifestyle books and magazines would You recommend to others?
“The Better Bottoming Book” by Dossie Easton
What is Your line of work?
ProDomme
How does Your work affect Your Femdom lifestyle?
I play less when I work more.
How do Your Female Supremacy views affect Your attitude within Your work environment?
Ha. My work environment is a dungeon. Yes, men are stripped as quickly and efficiently of their clothing as they are their dignity when they step into My domain!
Does Your family know of Your lifestyle?
Yes. If Y/you’re out to everyone than no one can lord it over Y/you. Y/you take that power away by outing Y/yourself on Y/your own terms.
Do You have friends in the lifestyle?
Yes, most of them.
Do You have vanilla friends who know of Your lifestyle?
Yup. All My vanilla friends know. They find it endlessly entertaining.
If Your favorite vanilla Girlfriend were to ask You why She should try dominating Her man, what reasons would You give Her?
The thrill of power exchange.
Have You ever been to a lifestyle party?
I go frequently.
Have You ever played in public?
All the time although I prefer the intimacy of private play in a private dungeon.
What is the single most important mistake a submissive man makes when first approaching a Dominant Woman?
Throwing himself down at the feet of every woman. Offering himself to everyone indiscriminately. How would that make a Domina feel special?
What do You look for when reading an e-mail message from a submissive?
Sincerity. Politeness.
Do You currently have a slave or submissive?
Yes.
Are You seeking other slaves or submissives?
Yes.
Do You consider Yourself straight or bi-sexual?
Bisexual.
Do You prefer Your slaves or submissives to be straight or bi-sexual?
No preference.
Which rules do You require a slave or submissive to live by? For instance, rules regarding use of furniture, walking behind You, calling in, chastity, and so forth.
Too much protocol to list. It doesn’t all come at once W/we slowly incorporate it throughout training. I’ve had the slave in the next room has come to serve Me three times and is under My consideration. So far he has been trained never to turn his back to Me, how to kneel properly, to address Me as “Ma’am” at the end of each sentence, to strip nude and fold his clothes up neatly as soon as he enters My abode, to keep his eyes cast down low, never to gaze upon Me or other Dominas without O/our permission, where and where to wait for orders and how to present his collar to Me. This is after nine hours of him cleaning and about twenty minutes of training.
What is Your favorite lifestyle activity?
humiliation
Do You feminize Your servants?
Often. It is a great tool of humiliation, it titillating to Me and serves as a great way for male subs to address their deeply engrained gender essentialist/hetronormative beliefs that femininity is inferior to masculinity. If a man does not think that femininity is inferior to masculinity, why should be be humiliated by being made to wear women’s clothing?
Does Your domination apply to all levels of Your relationship? For instance, do You or would You control Y/your finances?
In a partnership with a submissive I prefer to leave the mundane tasks to a submissive and for each of U/us to be responsible for what he or S/she excels at. For example I love to do the cooking, grocery shopping and domestic slave management but prefer a submissive to do the baking and house work.
Do You cuckold Your slaves or submissives with other lovers?
Ha. Yes because I don’t fuck slaves!
Do You live a 24/7 FemDom lifestyle?
Yes.
If You are in a 24/7 FemDom relationship, would You describe Your relationship as stronger than a vanilla relationship?
Yes, because W/we have greater communication and O/our relationship is not based on sex at all (there is none) but power exchange.
When a disagreement occurs between You and your slave or submissive, how is it resolved? Is Your word the final word?
I listen to what My slave has to say behind closed doors. I am more likely to dismiss a slave than a slave is to decide to “quit” serving Me so often My word is the last word.
Do You set benchmarks for a male to prove his devotion to You?
Yes.
Do You judge a slave or submissive’s willingness to embarrass himself as proof of his desire to serve You?
Yes.
What advice would You offer a Woman whose male partner has just asked to dominate him and She knows nothing of the lifestyle?
To read some books, watch some films and see if any of these things excite Her. If they do not then to think about how Her partner might be able to fulfill his desires in a CONSENSUAL, safe and fair way that honors his wife.
How do You discipline Your servant(s)?
Yes, just today the slave under My consideration was late… Last time he received lashes from the cane. This time I denied him his collar.. A much more effective punishment.
Do You use chastity on Your servant(s)?
I am chastity curious.
Do You use strap-ons on Your servant(s)?
Only My personal lifestyle lovers. Not on any old man servant!
Growth, learning and lots and lots of school.
Share with Us Your fears when You first became involved in the lifestyle.
That I would look stupid. That I would act a fool. I did and I was and I learned from My mistakes.
Do You have any words of encouragement for new Dommes?
Read, read, read! Don’t be afraid to tell everyone how brand spanking new You are. Don’t lie about your experience. Your freshness is beautiful and You will likely find another Domina who adores You and wishes to be your friend and Mentor. Do not be afraid to ask but know that this is a huge responsibility and commitment and that You must also be willing to do lots to serve Her and make Her commitment to You worth Her time. Fine joy in service. Service is not just for submissives. Oh, and bossy and bitchy does not make a Domme. All the good Dommes are the most polite, unscrupulously honest and ethical people around.
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Los Angeles Dominatrix Goddess Helena 